Dear Candice88,

you’re welcome. It appears he really did change and is much more considerate now. How did this change come about – what motivated him?

I have a hard time letting go of love. I want to explore every avenue before I throw in the towel on relationships, even bad ones

I understand. That’s why now you’re giving a chance to M too… With S, he was completely closed off at the time and unwilling to even consider that he might need to change. And yet, you stayed with him until he broke up with you. Perhaps you believed him at the time that it was your fault, and that you’re the one to blame?

I always wanted him to mature and change for the sake of girls who came after me,

This is interesting what you’ve said. It means you sort of knew he was to blame, or at least that he too was to blame, but you’ve stayed with him anyway. Have you hoped that he would still change at some point? That you would “save” him, so to speak?