Dear canary,

I don’t think my mom thought it was a big deal to tell my father about it.

yes, that’s a problem. It was a big problem for you, but in her eyes it wasn’t a big problem, and so she downplayed it. Or she let you deal with it on your own (like letting you stay at home to avoid feeling anxious in class).

She probably wasn’t aware of the importance of emotional support and the child’s emotional health. I think it goes into the category of emotional neglect – not providing enough emotional support to the child. She probably didn’t know better, but it still happened and affected you negatively.

Do you have a lot of siblings? Because that too may contribute to the child not receiving enough attention from the parents…