Dear kim:

Reads like family therapy is what is needed- you and your sons sitting with a good family therapist who will make honest communication possible between the three of you possible. I am guessing that it doesn’t seem possible in your mind, to have that happen?

If not, individual therapy with a good therapist for yourself will help.

Otherwise, maybe it will help if you share more about your marriage (are you still living with your sons’ father?), and anything else that is relevant to your current distress. If you share more, I will be able to attentively read and reply to you tomorrow morning, in about 11 hours from now.

anita