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Dear Lindsey:
I agree with you that it was the right decision for you to break up with S. I also think you did it the right way: texting him a short, honest, non-abusive text, and then blocking his number. For some other people, in different circumstances, a break up phone call or meeting in-person would be appropriate, but in the circumstances you described (him not giving you minimal time and attention)- a text is appropriate enough!
“While we were talking his girlfriend came up and in a loud voice was telling my daughter to come up stairs and get ready. My daughter put her head down and walked away upstairs. It was upsetting but I did not say anything“- talking about right and wrong (first paragraph), it is WRONG for your ex’s girlfriend to raise her voice at your daughter and otherwise display any aggression against your daughter- be it in the tone and volume of her voice, her facial/ bodily expressions, and her words and behavior (no matter how she feels about anything, she needs to control her expressions and behaviors).
What did your ex say when you expressed to him in the past what I mentioned in the paragraph above?
Again, I think you did the right thing in regard to S. Congratulations!
anita