Dear AP:

During the four years you dated her, there wee “lots of ups and downs”. There was “love, respect and friendship” in the relationship, at least during the Up parts. After the breakup, she “asked for no contact“. When later you got messages from her, you replied, and she “would promptly slam the door” in your face, again.

Two years after the breakup, you reached out to her for the purpose of resolving a court case. She reacted “with a very warm personal email”, you suggested a phone call. The phone call lasted 2 hours but it was “very head and not a lot of heart” conversation. She suggested doing a video call with your kids and hers, etc. You plan to move to her area of the world, and when you messaged her and told her that you were moving, she said “good for you! hope it goes well xx”, not offering to help you with the move.

“I am unable to ask her where I stand because I am not in a place to do that- mentally it is hard for me to stand up for my needs ~(I am still in therapy for this) Any help would be great!”-

– It seems to me that for whatever reasons, she’s been angry with you for a long time, from before the breakup, and has remained angry at you since (I boldfaced above what may suggest her anger). Seems to me that she has a soft spot in her heart for your kids, but not for you. Seems to me that when she reacted warmly to your call 2 years after the breakup, she was not feeling anger at that time, but her anger resumed soon afterwards.

Does this read true to you?

anita