Dear Candice88,

it occurred to me that M has a lot of resentment, stemming from his childhood (resentment for neither of his parents being there for him), and he is carrying this resentment into the relationship with you. It seems he resents you for working from home, and his resentment also shows in his unwillingness to help you with chores. He might be subconsciously thinking that his parents didn’t show up for him, then why would he show up for them (and you might remind him of his mother a little?). It seems to me he’d need to first deal with his anger at his parents, before he can have a semblance of a normal, healthy relationship.

Even if he is really working more now (“he grinds at work so that you can have a better life”), he’s still doing it with anger and resentment. And he probably believes that no one cares about his feelings – because no one really did in his childhood. And that’s why, no matter how caring you are, he sees you as demanding and nagging – because he’s projecting stuff on you, stuff that isn’t really there.

I don’t know if this sounds truthful to you and if it would make sense to talk with him about it. But what’s sure is that his promise to “change when you get pregnant” is an empty promise, and there’s no point in staying…