Dear D:

I understand your frustration about no longer having your own place, and your mom re-arranging the furniture in your room and refolding your clothes, etc. And calling you 23 times- she must have been terrified that something happened to you!

All in all, I don’t see any malice on her part, from what you shared so far. If she was in your home rearranging your furniture and refolding your clothes etc., that would be weird and alarming. Not so alarming it being her home, where she has been in the habit of doing what she is doing for years, maybe decades.

When you found out that she cut your daughter’s hair without your permission, I imagine that you told her to not do that again. If she listens to you and no longer repeats this particular act- that’s a good thing. Does she listen to your input and correct some of her behavior?

anita