Dear Lindsey:

If only we can choose what’s in our brains! But there is a way to mitigate the suffering of what you don’t want in your brain: the moment you realize those thoughts/ feelings are there and you don’t want them- don’t panic!

Don’t conclude the thoughts/ feelings are forever, that it will always be this way forevermore, because when you think this way, next thing- you do something impulsive that makes it worse!

Find somehow the self-discipline to detach from what is driving you crazy, come out from under the water, so to speak, take a breath above the surface of the water, and .. then think and decide what to do, only then you can make choices that make sense!

anita