Dear Damien:

Because of double posting, I submitted the above post before I read your post before your most recent, where you quoted the messages she sent you: “I just don’t see any future together…. It’s been seven years. I just can’t anymore“, “I think it’s time to let each other go. I don’t think it’s possible for us to turn back together”, “If you really appreciate me, please just let me go. It will relief for both of us”.

You wrote: “For me this sounds quite a depressive tone more or less“- it sounds depressive but it also sounds honest: she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and she is burdened by (and further depressed because of) your efforts to resume a relationship. She wants you to stop trying to resume a relationship. She told you that it will be a relief for her, if you give up and stop trying. She is afraid of hurting your feelings, but she really wants to be free of you. She asked you: please just let me go“!

After reading the quotes you provided, I believe that you should immediately stop any and all efforts to resume a relationship with her (send her back the key to her flat, and abort your plan to visit her). Give her the freedom and relief that she has clearly asked for, please!

anita

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