Dear Damien:

I suggest that when you communicate with her next, and definitely by the time you visit her, that you will let her know clearly that you believe that “it’s too early” for you to consider marriage with her, that you want to restart a relationship with her, get to know each other, resolve issues that exist, and over time, see where the relationship takes the two of you.

Be honest with her not only about how you feel about her, but also about your intents (the paragraph above).

anita