Dear TeaK,

Thank you once again for ur reply.

“Goofy pictures are fun, you don’t need to feel embarrassed at all! Actually it tells others you are cool and relaxed because you don’t mind posting a funny picture of yourself. So rest assured, it’s totally harmless and seen either as positive or neutral. You have nothing to worry about.“

= Yes i think it creates an image of me as a relaxed person towards other people, but i still think it’s not a good way to show girls…. Like imo i need to show them a proper pic of me to get them attracted as goofy pics might turn them off, even though it’s harmless.

I wanna re-discuss regarding this matter:

“We’ve already talked about your job at your family business, and your future there. You’re still young, everything is still possible, even going for a year or two to study abroad. But right now, you still don’t know what you want, you’re unsure about many things. So postpone those bigger decisions (such as about your career) till you feel within yourself what is that you really want. Till then, focus on smaller things, such as: “i also want to try going to the gym and wear braces…” “

= I really wanna rant regarding this issue due to my parents…

When i graduated high school back then, i wasnt quite sure on what should i do for my future, i’m also unsure on which uni to take that time…

My parents tells me to take “that” uni and after graduating later on, immediately go back to our hometown to help our family’s business (i’ve explained about this previously)…. Due to those words i became lazy at uni and although i passed my uni without any failed modules… my marks on uni are never good… just barely passed… Some of my friends target good marks on their modules for their career later on.

Now after graduating, i’m back on my hometown helping my parents….
Every month i get my salary for helping them…Although i don’t really help much in the office… But you know what…. Sometimes my mum make fun of me for getting that wage, like she’s joking that i’m the son of my dad, and therefore i get my salary just like everyone else in the office even though i didn’t do much there….Like my role in the company is an invisible role…

Like what do they want actually…. I know they want me to inherit, but they make it seem like i’m useless…

They also once told me, why do you never try starting your own business?
I never think about starting my own career because they told me working for someone else is not gonna be an easy task… and our family has a business… so i wouldn’t need to apply for jobs…

Now i’m thinking of mending my marks by taking masters abroad, and i’ve told my parents about it… but they told me to not discuss about that as it’s still lockdown now… and we don’t know when i can go abroad as there are still many cases in my country….

If i really study abroad later on… i wanna try taking part time jobs while having my masters… then after graduating i’ll try applying for jobs (in that abroad country) to gain experience…. If i do get the job i’ll work for a year and then go back to my hometown…. If i didn’t get the job i’ll immediately go back….
Ultimately i’ll go back to help them… at least, when i go back i can show them i finished my masters, took a part time job, and (could be) have a job of my own.

Tbh i think i’m not a person who enjoys doing business as it requires interacting with people… and as an introvert i dislike it… but due to circumstances, i’ll have to learn it.

i just hope that i can study abroad before i’m 25…

Because if it’ll took 2 years for me to graduate… and i wanna marry before 30.. and if my final decision is to go back to my hometown and help my parents… the most possible scenario is to marry someone who lives in my city right 🙂…

I know you’ve said that i should postpone the bigger decisions… it’s just that i wanna rant about this issue 😂 as the more i think about it, the more i feel like i’m a failure (although with my current mindset, i can feel a little better with my self-esteem as i didn’t care about other people’s life anymore)…

Do u think the way my parents guide me for my future is wrong? Although i know they want the best for me…

Or is it me that is at fault because i should be able to think of my future, and not relying on my parents?