Dear Linarra:

“If she really loved me, I wouldn’t have had to try that hard“- if she loved you, your love for her would feel- to her-  like a breath of fresh air. All you would have to do would be to smile at her, and she’d smile back, her smile saying: I like you, Linarra, I am so happy that you are my daughter! You don’t have to work to make me happy: you make me happy just because you are in my life!

“Protecting myself isn’t hurting her. Even if it was, she would be the one interpreting wrong“- healing is about re-interpreting. She is the one thinking wrong. And she is not willing to re-interpret her wrong thinking. You can’t change her thinking, but you can continue to gradually evict all of her wrong thinking from your head.

“If she was able to think healthily, she would understand I may not want to be touched in a certain way by her and she wouldn’t be hurt that I do not allow that“- she understood before and she still understands that you don’t want to be touched in a certain way.

“Yes, I do care about you, Anita. And I am more than happy to give you breaths of fresh air“- and you don’t have to work hard to give me breaths of fresh air!

anita