Dear Jisoo,

And why he could not open up with me ..I have no idea.

There was/is definitely something that he is hiding from you. Even if he seems perfect sometimes and talking to him feels “like home”, there is that other, secretive, deceptive part of him, which he is hiding from you. You don’t know what it is and what he is hiding, but in any case, it makes him untrustworthy and inappropriate for even keeping as a friend. He is telling you he is more than a friend, but no, he isn’t, because in friendship you know about the other party, they aren’t keeping large parts of their life hidden from you. So no, he’s not a friend, but rather a “mysterious stranger”, with questionable intentions. Anyway, I’d stay away from him…

From my end I have a detachment and emotionally unavailable mentality …. its a different topic altogether.

If you want to share some more about it, please do… It’s interesting because you said you have an anxious attachment style and you reacted strongly when he showed signs of withdrawing. So I am curious as to what you mean by being emotionally unavailable and detached?