Dear Lindsey:

Mothers are often very, very powerful figures in their daughters’ lives, far beyond childhood. What happened in your marriage was/is powerful, as far as what is driving the obsession/ addiction that we are discussing, but not as powerful as what happened between you and your mother, according to my understanding.

Although your descriptions of your ex are at times very troubling, almost as if he is a sadist- I never got a clear picture of him.. not clear enough.

anita