Dear thatssoelsie,

Help? Am a secret? or is he right?

No, he isn’t right to keep you a secret in front of his coworkers. You’ve been together for 5 years – what is he hiding?

His defense is, “I don’t want them to know what type of jealous girlfriend you are, they think highly of me”

If this is what he’s thinking of you – he is ashamed of you, and it’s always a big problem if one party is ashamed of the other. It won’t end well because he doesn’t respect you.