Hello Everyone,

Thank you for the responses, My wife and I will have a lot to talk about and process.  I spoke with her last night (Saturday), and we discussed her work and hours, how it is affecting our son and myself (more about our son than me).  So she worked a half-day today and we spent some time together as a family, but she had to go back into work to finish up and wont be home until after I put our son to bed. She understands that her hours are affecting us, but her answer is that she can’t change her hours because of her job, and she has no help, and she took on another client this week, and didn’t tell me because she knew I would get mad about that.  But we will have another discussion tomorrow about how everything is affecting us.

TeaK: She is very messy at home, her desk is piled up with receipt’s, paper’s, plants, pictures, and other things.  Her side of the room has clothes, shoes, books, and other things strewn about.  At work her feed room is very organized (which I helped her with, built some shelves, added a feed bin, and some other storage), and she keeps it very well organized, since there are other people that use it, but her “office” is a mess, she has tools, nails, screws, papers strewn about.  We will talk about her resuming therapy the next time we have a discussion about it, I hope she will, but I am not sure if she will do it.  I will try though, Thank you.

Anita: I do love her, When the thought of splitting up crosses my mind I get sad, and feel like I wouldn’t be able to do it without her, but maybe its just a guilt thing, because I do most everything by myself anyway.  These past few days I have been doing extra to show her that I am being supportive and loving, but it doesn’t seem to do much, maybe because its too little too late.  But I will bring this up when we have another discussion tomorrow.  Thank you.

Aardvark: I understand what you mean, analyzing everything is fine, but it is not everything.  My son’s needs are being met, he is fed, clothed and happy.  He doesn’t have a lot of time with his mother though, which I am not sure how much that will effect him.  As for the other two, that would be no.  Which I will bring up with her when we have another discussion tomorrow.

We have a lot to work on and talk about still, and I thank you all for your input and suggestions.  I will write back and let you know how everything goes.

Thank you very much!