Dear Bianca:

If you were obsessed about whether you have a brain tumor, you could go to a doctor, get tests and exams done, and if they come up negative,  you get your answer.  But there is no medical test or exam to determine sexual orientation: you can see all the medical doctors in the world: no responsible medical doctor will give you an answer.

So, you can see, don’t you, that no person online can responsibly tell you that you are gay or straight. I can’t. Even if I told you: Bianca, you are straight for sure! Maybe you will feel better for a moment, but shortly after, you will question my answer and be back to obsessing.

“Every time I’m with someone I love and care about my mind says your gay and you should tell them”- who are those people (those someone-s)  you referred to here, these people who you are with, those you love?

anita