Dear Elie:

To refocus on your work after being distracted and to remain focused, you will need:

(1) to deal with the part of you that dissociates (“there’s always a part of me that disassociates with people and surroundings”, April 2021),

(2) to express your deeper feelings and complications inside to someone who is not a family member as clearly as you can (“my own complications inside… deeper feelings beyond what people try to comfort me  by… the complications inside me haunt me”),

(3) to be understood by that someone (“I.. feel like I’m not capable of being understood… I always wanted to feel understood but I  never got that”),

(4) to manage your anxiety about your brother, and about others whom you love, so that you don’t worry too much, or break apart as a result of this anxiety (“I really do see him trying but slowly he’s breaking apart as well. And that just makes me break apart too… I’m more worried on the emotional states of myself and everyone I love”).

anita