Dear natalee:

I re-read your first post on page 2 of this thread and see if anything new comes to mind. You are 16, dated Jessi Feb-June, 2021. He “was so sweet, kind, talkative, very funny, helpful, amazing, and most of all, a good boyfriend… it was perfect”. But in May 2021, while Jessi was so sweet, etc., and the relationship was perfect, you flirted with an old crush and sent him a partial nude picture. Next, your mother made you tell Jessi, you did, and his response: (1) at first, “he hugged me and was pretty mad”, (2) the next day “he broke up with me”, (3) six days later, “he came back and we got back together… for 3 weeks”, (4) June 25: “he dumped me again. he said he could not live with the fact that I cheated”.

More about Jessi’s response: “when he left the first time, he was wiping tears from his eyes as he was leaving. he was so hurt, but he loved me so much”.

You then mentioned a third guy, “this kid in my gym class” who fell in love with you, and you  “flirted a little back” when you were still Jessi’s girlfriend. When you posted your first post here, you were considering pursuing a relationship with the new guy (“Can’t choose between an ex and a new guy”, is the title of this thread).

On a later post, you added that Jessi “did mention before we broke up, that if we ever did, he would want to be the friends with benefits”.

I never asked you, natalee, but it may be the time to ask you: how is life at home, what is your relationship with your mother, with your father.. are they married (your mother and father) and how is their relationship?

You don’t have to answer these questions, of course, but the answers may lead me to better understand what is happening in your mind and heart regarding Jessi, the old crush and the new guy.

anita