Dear canary,

We were always making jokes and acting silly, so that is what I mean by my “weird quirks”.

I see, so you were on the same wavelength with him, had a similar sense of humor, and it was pleasant and enjoyable to spend time with him, making jokes and having fun. Other people didn’t necessarily like your jokes or your behavior, and you didn’t feel appreciated by them. You couldn’t be yourself around them, you needed to hide that part of yourself. With him, you could be yourself.

Since you’re not together anymore and his behavior changed drastically – how do you feel about those quirks of yours now? Do you feel they are bad? Has your image of yourself changed, because he isn’t supportive any more?

I’m not sure if my family/friends didn’t appreciate those parts of me that I consider to be bad.

You said “other people” didn’t appreciate it. Who are those other people, besides family and friends, whose opinion you care about?