Dear Umaz,

he was talking about the funeral and told me that his ex’s mum and sister was at the funeral. This hurt me so much and I reacted poorly, I was angry, he again said I was a narcissist.

You say you reacted poorly – what did you say? If you e.g. blamed him for even speaking to them, he might have felt it’s selfish from you. People often use the term “narcissistic” when they actually mean selfish, self-centered.

He does call me that often and realised maybe he is gaslighting me. Every time I try to raise my own feelings he makes me feel so guilty about it, and calls me a narcissist.

What are some other occasions in which he called you narcissistic?