Dear darkmatter:

I read your two posts. You asked: “are these remotely good signs of him wanting to be back together?“-

– My answer: No: you asked him a few months ago if he wanted to be back together, and he said: No (“I did ask him a few months ago whether he was interested at trying at the relationship and he said no“), and he didn’t ask you to be back together since he said No.

He did tell you you that “he doesn’t want to mess with (you)“, but seems to me that he has been messing with you by giving you contradictory messages,  talking from both sides of his mouth. One example: “He responded, apologized for how long it took him to get back to me and said he still likes me and cares about me but thinks probably not talking at the moment is the right thing“-

-on one hand he tells you that he likes you and cares about you, and on the other hand, (1) he does not respond to you for a long time, and (2) he tells you that not talking with you is the right thing.

Notice: he says that he likes you and cares about you, but..- his “but” is his transition from one side of his mouth to the other, his transition from one message to a contradictory message.

I am under the impression that you are hopeful to get back with him.. are you?

anita