Hi Anita,

I have been doing so much better. Every day that passes it gets better. Had a conversation with Christopher and I realised that all the things I had thought we had him and I were all imagined. Talking to this guy objectively and I realised every single thing he does is calculated. Everything that comes out of his mouth is a ploy.  It’s been rather disappointing that I gave so much of my heart to someone that doesn’t even deserve common human decency. you know he had a very hard childhood growing up. I can kinda liken his situation to how the abused becomes an abuser too.  I got the vibe that he thinks because he had a tough childhood he is justified in being mean and using people so that he gets his way. he is not a nice human being.

So he says to me that when he was breaking up with me he never imagined that things would be this bad. As in us becoming total strangers. listening to this guy talking like that convinced me even more that this is a man that is driven by success without ever finding out who he is.  all that matters to him is acknowledgement from others. In his mind, he thinks this will make him happy.  I think its quite sad, to be honest with you.

I turned down a marriage proposal and broke up with my current long-distance boyfriend.  I made the mistake of getting involved with someone else in the hopes of trying to get over Christopher. Freddie is a very strange man and I always got a weird vibe off of him.

He kept pushing to get married, but I guess it’s because I have a stable job and he is looking for someone to take care of him.  I nipped that in the bud.  He sounded disappointed but I was not going to risk my son’s safety for anyone. He is a divorcee and the circumstances of the divorce that was narrated to me did not convince me. I felt like I needed to get the ex’s perspective too.

All in all, I have been doing so much better. My therapy sessions have been going well. I have another one today and I am hoping that I get to unlock more of myself.

I will definitely keep you updated on my progress if you are interested.

Regards,

Elizabeth.