Dear aphroitte1,

I am sorry you are still entangled with this young man and cannot seem to move on. The title of your thread is “Two friends who can’t be together”. The truth is that you could be together, but he doesn’t want to. He doesn’t want to go public, he prefers to sneak around, because he did the same thing with his ex – she too was a part of your circle and they dated in secret. So when  you say:

Even though we felt like we found our soulmates, we were absolutely compatible we have found factors that are not letting us be together.

The truth is, he has found factors why you two can’t be together. And he is trying to convince you that those are valid reasons. But actually those are excuses, because as you say, if he truly loved you, he’d come out in the open about the two of you:

I think if you are very in love or you enjoy with someone you’ll make sacrifice because that makes you happy and your life.

Then you say:

But he seems to deny that choice and choose to save his friends.

Actually, I believe he is trying to save his face, because he’d need to admit that he’s dated two girls from his friends circle in secret, and that might be awkward. He is not saving his friends, because they have nothing to lose – he is saving his own face. I believe this is behind his sleazy behavior: he cares more about himself and his reputation than he cares about you.

Please try to see his behavior for what it is – it should help you move on. And I wouldn’t stay friends with him either, because having  such a manipulative person for a friend isn’t really fun.