Dear Rachal:

I would be disgusted too, if I was in your place. For you, sex and love go together (“for me, sex comes only after I am in love“), and you’ve been having sex with your boyfriend, and only with your boyfriend,  because you love him. For you,  sex is a special thing, something private between you and the man you love. And yet, the man you love..  wants to take sex out of the private context into the public context: you having sex with some other man (no love involved) and then tell him the details.

I imagine that if you accommodated his current fantasy, the next step on his fantasy ladder would be him watching you having sex right there where it takes place.. and the next step after that.. ?

My gut level answer to your question if you should break up with him is Yes, and regarding marrying him: No!

anita