Dear Rachal:

You are welcome. “we will have to take couple therapy because I am still disgusted and don’t know how to feel about and what to do“- this crossed my mind earlier today, the two of you seeing a couple therapist.

Having just read from you that his parents are very strict, not allowing their adult son to be in the company of a female, locking him up when they learned that he had a girlfriend 3 years ago- I figure that his attraction to the idea of you having sex with another man, or men, is about going against his parents’ strictness to the extreme: not only by having a girlfriend.. but all the way, crossing the basic, socially and sexually acceptable practice of monogamy, PLUS hearing the details. It excites him to rebel against his controlling mother to the Extreme!

Question is, will he rebel against his mother by marrying you and making a life with you, or will he eventually break under his mother’s pressure and break up with you.. Also, if I understand correctly, he is about 25 or so.. maybe younger. This means that in a few years his parents will pressure him to marry some other woman, in India. Don’t you think so?

anita