Dear StarFlower:

“The problem is that I feel undeserving of his affection as I’ve done a lot of “unholy” things to put it lightly, things that involve me hurting (not physically) other people. I worry that if he knew the truth about me, he’d be disgusted and upset that he wasted his time on someone like me… The things I’ve done aren’t just small…  those actions having occurred years ago… Does my boyfriend deserve to find someone truly worth his praise?“-

– a lot depends on what you are referring when you say “unholy’ things” and how those unholy things hurt other people. Maybe, depending on what those things are, you can make amends to the people you hurt. Maybe there are things you can do to correct some of the hurt you caused by helping the people you hurt, or by helping people you never met who are hurt in similar ways.

Would you like to explain a bit the nature of those unholy things, if not in detail, then in a general way, as well as how those things hurt other people?

anita