If you are no longer that person, no longer guilty of doing bad things, then aren’t you a person deserving of his kindness?

It’s for you to forgive yourself, and hopefully show those you hurt that you are aware of how your behavior affected them. All easier said than done. However, it’s hard to imagine you could ever feel “worthy” until you work toward and through it.

If you truly are no longer that person, and trust that your past behavior is in the past, I’d offer not telling him of these “unholy” things. Not everyone can look beyond such things, can forever change how they see you. Only you know if those bad behaviors were put to rest. If they are…consider that some things are best left in the past. If you think you are still capable of doing bad things, I think he has a right to know if it would be of concern for his safety or others.

Until we find worth in ourselves, we’ll forever feel like a fraud when someone values us.

Edit: Think of this: That he sees a part of you worth love, a part that has value, a part you may not have been aware of, or not accustomed to being acknowledged.

• This reply was modified 3 years ago by SSS.