Dear likecrystal:

You are welcome and thank you for being as appreciative and gracious as you are!

“I have been wanting to let go of one particular relationship (I think there are others too) but have felt incredibly obligated“- a false sense of obligation (guilt) was my greatest hindrance for so many years: heavy, suffocating sense of obligation toward my mother. This was the greatest obstacle that kept me from figuratively flying in the sky, like a bird. I remember thinking, as a teenager, that if I could have only one day free from guilt, sometime in my future: my life would be worth living.

“I had to stop contact for the moment, for health reasons.   After doing this, I found that I was not having nearly so many cravings“- stopping contact was the right thing to do.

“It seems that some of my relationships are there out of this sense of obligation, rather than affection freely given“- relationships maintained by guilt are like death; relationships with a free flow of affection, free from false obligation, free from guilt- is what living is about!

“Where to go for a safe haven?   This is where I wish I could send a pm“- if you would like to elaborate on this, here on your thread, please do (what would be the advantage of PM for you?)

anita

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