Dear likecrystal:

There is no PM feature on this site. I exchanged my private email with six members over the 6.5 years of my daily participation here, and with all six members- there was no advantage whatsoever, and often a disadvantage in regard to the outcomes of the private communication over the outcomes of the public (tiny buddha) communication, as far as I know. Therefore, I am not motivated to move from public communication to private communication.

You wrote that you are “getting old“- I wonder if that means that you are in your 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s. I am fine if you don’t share your age. I don’t like sharing my own age (in public or in private), but if you share, I will reciprocate.

“I think I have to recognise that I made the mistake of having looked to resolve things with my parents for so long, and I didn’t move forward“- pretty true in my case as well, for decades- a massive waste of life.

“but I hadn’t had sufficient positive input from them to move forward“- again, I wonder what kind of positive input from your parents, you’ve been waiting for. I wonder but I am okay if you choose to not share.

anita