Dear aphroitte1:

You are welcome. ” I’ve become so distant because finally after so many years I realized my worth, I gained small self-respect and confidence and I am braver that before. And I know that bothers him. Because I am saying no to his bad behaviour and that will be the deal breaker for him”-

– congratulations for realizing your worth, for respecting yourself, for becoming more confident and braver! Please continue to say no to his and to anyone’s bad behavior!

“It was not that love that will make me grow, be happy and healthy. And I want that for me. My priority is being myself and happy and finally with peace“- excellent! If a supposed love is not helping you grow, if it is not healthy for you… then it is not love at all.

“I don’t want my kids to see unappreciated bad love in front of them and to think that is okay. I want to be the cycle breaker in my own parents’ patterns and in my love relationships“- you are saying all the right things today!

“I’ve never met his family through (7) years“- I would like to understand this better, how did it come about that you never met his family, what were the reasons?

“I’ve never attended holidays with him or properly celebrated without a fight”– can you describe to me a typical fight: did it normally happen in-person or long-distance? How long did it last, how did it begin (who said or did what to whom), what happened during the fight (what did he say and do, what do you say and do, back and forth), how did the typical fight end, and what happened in the aftermath?

anita