Dear Lindsey:

“I’m starting to think none of this is worth my time“- I agree: a man who does not respect a woman’s No is NOT worth her time!

Dating should be a weeding out process: removing dating-candidates who are not fit for the job! To fit for the job, a man has to respect a woman’s No!

“I feel conflicted. If someone was persistent like that with sex, are they really interested in ME? Or are they wanting one thing?“- they want one thing: the woman as a sexual object, as a warm body to enjoy. It is humiliating to be sexually objectified; you are much more than a warm body!

“Even though he takes me on dates?“- some men pay for dinner and whatnot and expect to have sex after, as a reward. When they succeed, practically, they pay for sex.

“I have not heard from him at all today and in the past, he has texted by now.  The entire situation seems off to me“- it is possible that he wants you to be anxious about not getting a text from him so far, then he calls you later and expects you to be so grateful, that you will be willing to be back on his couch with a grateful Yes.

“What if the person he has acted like until now is not the person he really is?“- it is very possible in the context of dating: this is why it is so important to get to know a man over a long enough period of time before considering having sex with him!

anita

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