Dear Michael:

Using some of your words, you can tell the person you know and care about something like this:

I care about you, this is why I want to tell you something that I hope will help you: I witnessed that in the last 15 years, you repeatedly entered into relationships with people who  proved unworthy of your trust, and as a result you collapsed every time. I think that you are about to enter another such relationship and I am afraid it will end the same way. I don’t want you to collapse again.

Be prepared to tell this person you care about, why you suspect that his or her love interest is not worthy of trust.

* I wonder about something: you wrote that this person “repeatedly entered into relationships that promised to fulfill their needs”. I never heard that before, a person promising another: I will fulfill your needs,! It sounds like too big of a promise, a promise that is not realistic to make, don’t you think?

anita