Dear Ivygrl:

I wrote to you: “When you do push yourself, push yourself very gently!”, and you asked me: “What do you mean by that?” – I mean that instead of saying to yourself something like, I must hurry up and move faster and not be lazy! etc., say to yourself something like, I will move a little faster, if it’s too difficult, I will stop. I am a hard-working, honest person.

You wrote: “There’s no way to shift back the emotions though, not unless they go away naturally, but I don’t want the sad feeling to go away naturally. I want them to go away now. What can I do?” – try to let go of wanting your emotions to go away NOW. Try to not desire that, and your emotions will calm down faster than otherwise. Wanting our emotions to disappear right away makes them stay longer!

“I’m starting to realize that my parents do love me, but they don’t give enough information about my autism arousal…. But the point is the doctors did not tell what type of autism I have” – reads like you should see better and more informed professionals about your autism, professionals who will offer you and your parents all the information that is possible to offer, including information about arousal levels and the topic of punishments (personally, I didn’t understand what you shared about punished).

anita