Dear Icycream:

My advice: (1) Do not assume that if you manage to get pregnant by him, that the lost deep connection will resume. I heard about and read from many women who assumed this, but after they got pregnant and had children, the men left them anyway, and they had to raise their children alone,

(2) Seek couple counseling by a (religious or secular) counselor, so that the counselor will guide and help the two to communicate honestly and effectively, and then figure out what to do next.  Is this a possibility for the two of you to attend couple counseling together?

anita