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Hi canary
You feelings about being hurt will not disappear just because you forgave the perpetrator. Your feelings are telling you to pay attention to something – I am not sure what cope means exactly, but is it to resign to the fact that these feelings will persist and you want to move ahead with life? I do not recommend coping. I recommend sitting with those feelings and looking at what angered and made you sad. One thing that helps me, is to know that the other person caused this anger or sadness and taking responsibility only for my well being as I move forward. But the responsibility of causing this has to go to the person that hurt you.
Are you still around this person? Have they moved on? Were you compensated emotionally and mentally for being hurt? You hurt is asking for attention, please give it that.
There is nothing wrong with your anger. Aim for not letting it consume you. And for it to not consume you, you need to pacify it, console it, take its side and acknowledge the hurt. Dedicate some time of the day for this. You will get better as time goes on, at focussing on yourself.
- This reply was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by samy.