Hi Peter,

Thank you this really resonated with me.

I found it helpful to note that forgiveness does not mean a person is no longer responsible or accountable for thier actions. It means we can hold them accountable without having to attach to our anger and hurt. We experience hurt and anger vice ‘I am’ hurt…

This makes more sense.

The next time you are experiencing these painful memories and emotions ask yourself if a part of you could be doing so with the subconscious hope that by holding on to your pain you are punishing the one you hurt?

I believe this is what I am doing! The person that hurt me explicitly stated that they felt no remorse for their actions, so I think I am holding onto that because I am hoping that they can feel guilty for their actions… and that is the reason I feel so much anger/sadness.

These feelings will likely still arise from time to time, but with help, the amount of time hold onto them will lesson until the day you will just notice…

Thank you this brought me comfort. I am still looking for a psychotherapist and I will be sure to address this.