Dear Lily Margarette,

I would like help in being able to build my self-esteem in order to sort myself put with earning money. … The problem is I have no idea how to do this.

If you feel incapable of earning money, including scared of failing if you even try something, there must be a story that you are telling yourself, e.g. “I am not good enough”, or “I am too old”, or “I don’t have proper skills”, which keeps playing in your mind. What is the story, i.e. the negative self-talk that you have been telling yourself?

On your previous thread, you spoke about the reasons why you married your husband:

I married him because i loved him, and thought he’d protect me and the family we have and make me feel safe.

In what ways you didn’t feel safe enough and unable to protect yourself? Inspired by anita’s last question, is it perhaps his ability to provide for you and the family what attracted you (among other things), because you felt unprotected financially while growing up?