Dear Jennifer:

I am sorry that your feelings got hurt. It hurts to believe that someone cares for you, and then find out that he doesn’t. He texted you that he loved you and missed you, but texting and saying words is very easy to do, it takes seconds and no physical effort at all. This is why it is important to get to know a man over time, to ask him questions, listen to his answers, and most importantly, look at his behavior over time before you conclude that a person cares for you, or not.

Lots of men who are interested in having sex but not in a loving relationship, know if they tell a young woman who is interested in a loving relationship (dates, meeting friends and family, etc.), if they tell her these three words, I love you, she sorts of melts in their arms and becomes easy to have sex with. She melts because she imagines that the guy loves her, while in reality, he feels like having sex, that’s all.

anita