Hi Nycartist,

40 is such an interesting time. I definitely sensed a shift in me as I was turning 40, like “ok, I’m a boss now. Step off” lol. So I think it’s probably both you and them, honestly. And Covid definitely brought out the true nature of people, I think. You probably don’t like what you see from your friends, and are honestly wondering if you even have time for it.

I think friendships are an ebb and flow though, so I would say just accept where you guys are now. Maybe your one friend doesn’t handle adversity well–it’s not a crime, but it is really annoying especially if you’re a strong person. Don’t make excuses for her, though. Take care of your own mental space. If you want to keep your distance from her, do so. No regrets.

People say real life starts at 40. Like, you know who you are and what you’re willing to put up with. I’m not saying cut off these friendships, but just limit your time with them and see how you feel. I’m 44 now, and over the last few years I’ve had to make new friends, just so I can live authentically and peacefully. Honestly, that’s the most important thing.

Good luck!

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