Correction/ clarification to the above: it is not that your mother needed you too much; she needed help too much. Excessively needy and troubled mothers (such as yours and mine) need the help of professional adults such as psychiatrists, psychotherapists and social workers. A child is not capable of giving them the help that they need.

And mothers know this, they do not think of their children as powerful and capable people. After all, they changed the diapers of their children not long before, because their children were not powerful and not capable of standing up or walking or going to the bathroom by themselves.

Many troubled and excessively needy mothers misuse their children’s time and empathy by venting to them, complaining to them, etc., so they are helping themselves to the child in these ways, but the child will try to help his mother beyond what she is already helping herself to, falsely believing that he is powerful and capable enough to cure her troubled mind and make her happy. This is the child’s delusion.

anita