Dear Lindsey:

I think that you are going about it all the right way, again, well done!

I mentioned to you yesterday that you feel emotions more intensely than other people do. Remember this when you interact with Jason and with other people, and a negative situation comes to be- the situation is probably not as bad as you feel it to be, often not even close to how badly you think it is. In the current situation, Jason expressed concern, enough concern to make it clear to me that you should block the gross guy, tell Jason that you did, and I suppose, apologize for not having done it sooner. But Jason probably did not overthink this, did not feel very anxious about it, did not want to end his relationship with you, etc.

Remember this in future negative situation and react according to the lesser bad situation that it really is. For example, in your conversation with Jason tomorrow, don’t go on and on about it, don’t over-apologize, don’t over-explain. Instead, say what you need to say in a serious tone, apologize sincerely, and add what you learned from the experience. You can practice what to say before you meet with him- it can lower your anxiety level about the Friday conversation.

anita