Hi Petalinthewind

You said yourself that ultimately nothing happened. Worst case you were considering an affair. There is a huge difference between thinking about something and going through with it.

We all have doubts and fears. Consider the situation that lead to those thoughts occurring. You mentioned that you felt lonely in your marriage at the time and that this man coming into your life was someone that you used to love.

I think it’s understandable that you had complicated feelings about the whole situation.

What would you think if a friend were in a similar situation? Would you blame your friend?

Perhaps, you are feeling guilty not for what happened but what could have happened under different circumstances?

If he too was lonely in his marriage too and wanted to rekindle a relationship with an old flame. Perhaps you fear that the situation would have ended differently?

Would your guilt be tied to feelings for your husband? Or do you still feel a desire to leave your marriage?