Dear Arie1276:

“You are right about the anxious attachment… I don’t have much experience with depression and an abusive parent like he has” – but you do have much experience with having been neglected and/ or rejected as a child, otherwise you wouldn’t fit the anxious attachment style, being so very, very desperate for a guy, particularly a guy whom you met only recently.

“How do I go about texting him or calling him in a way that will not make him run away from me” – part of you wants my help with how to chase him successfully, how to catch him.

“What do I say one last time then I will go about my separate way and focus on myself until he decides to reach out to me, if that” – you are not ready for a “one last time” because you still desperately want him to reach out to you. What you are asking me here, is: how can I have the patience to wait for him to reach out to me? How can I stop myself from texting and calling him, so that he will reach out to you and so that the two of us can… live happily ever after? Is this what you are asking me?

anita