Anita,

You truly don’t know how much you’ve helped me talk through this problem, and make it more easier for me to handle my feelings and articulate them, you helped me realize the rationality behind the situation. I think now you’ve said it, my life would be the same if I were to go back to my ex, and that wouldn’t end well for him or me. I just want him to be happy and healthy but that might mean we need to go our separate ways. My trouble now is communicating how I feel because I don’t want to hurt him like I mentioned above. I do know sometimes people have to get hurt but how do I approach him since things have been somewhat OK? I’ve told him I could see myself marrying him but now that time has gone by my feelings have changed and I’m definitely going to break his heart. I will just express to him what I have before, that I can’t put my energy into something that might not turn out to be what I want and need. I don’t want him to think I’m necessarily leaving him for another guy, there just happened to be a connection as soon as I had serious feelings of separation in August. I would’ve gained the courage to leave my ex but probably not so fast if I hadn’t met the new guy. Which for some reason is where I still feel guilty, but I can’t help my feelings. I’m not sure how to feel better about that, and how my ex is going to respond, I might just have to give it time.

– Jess