Dear Anonymous91:

IF (and think about it), if you were unfair to him in your criticisms of him and of his ways, if you complained to him about lack of commitment to you too early in the relationship, if you put unfair pressure on him and contributed to him feeling like a disappointment- then maybe you should talk to him about it, ask him how he feels, and if the two of you have a meeting of the minds on the matter, maybe you can take it from there, figure new rules for the relationship, more mutual respect and no more pressure on him…?

anita