Dear Nichole:

You are welcome. I wish I could be of more help than I am.

“If I truly ever mattered to him than knowing I’m in Florida and wanting to see him should put a fire under him, am I wrong to think that?” – I don’t think that you are wrong. I agree with you.

“Throughout these last two years I’ve piled on an extra 50 pounds. It doesn’t make me feel good” – slowly, patiently, one day at a time, lose the extra weight?

“I don’t feel ready to date. Like I need to be more whole but how long can a girl wait?” – start dating similarly to h0w I suggested that you lose the extra weight: slowly, patiently, one date at a time. You don’t have to do it all at once, to be fully ready before you embark on the first date.

“I fear someone manipulating me again” – I can help you with this when it becomes relevant: give me the information, (what he said and did in relation to what) and I will help you figure out if you are being dishonestly manipulated.

anita