Dear Miyoid:

“I did a terrible mistake today” – really, it was not a terrible mistake, it was just a mistake. Maybe one day he will call you by the wrong name and you will forgive him, because it would be a mistake, and we all make mistakes.

“I act responsibly and try not to do mistakes and think of every situation beforehand… I feel like it’s just not fair. And sometimes I cannot get over this feeling. I would want to be more careless about everything” – I think what this is about is that you didn’t get to have a carefree childhood, you didn’t get to have a childhood where you felt safe and cared for; instead, you worried a lot, anxious… you were careful instead of carefree. Fast forward, as an adult, you are still careful, and you envy people who are carefree.

Did I understand correctly?

anita