Dear Lindsey:

“I do attempt to apply some of these aids but not all of them. It does not seem to help but maybe the more I do the activities my brain chemicals may start to catch on” –

– like the saying goes (originally an AA saying): it works if you work it, notice the “if”.

Another saying: Do or do not, there is no try (Yoda), so don’t “attempt to apply some of these”, instead, apply some of these, apply what you choose to apply, but do so religiously, committedly, every day… and they will work for you!

“I am not ready to talk about a future with him yet either.  In my opinion I do not know him well enough to make a decision of him meeting the kids, etc… 4 1/2 months of dating is not a long time period” – this is the reasonable and wise Lindsey!

“I think we are both very happy with our current situation.  He shared that one of his check marks for getting very serious is actually being divorced on paper- which makes sense” – like you said before, this really is a healthy relationship!

anita