Dear Ed:

“She already helped you so much“- but I didn’t help you so much. If I helped you, I helped you a tiny bit a little bit. You are not annoying me and you are not presenting me with any drama: your life is not drama, it’s real and it’s important.

I was wondering (it often happens that I wonder, and as always, you are welcome to not answer any of my questions):

(1) when you were diagnosed with c-ptsd, what did the professional who diagnosed you tell you about your particular c-ptsd situation at the time (at what age were you diagnosed)?

(2) About your ex-girlfriend: was she diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (bpd) or with codependent personality disorder (from the ICD-10), or is it something you came up with?

(3) A well-known symptom of bpd is inappropriate, intense anger that can be difficult to control– what did her anger look like when she was with you: did she scream at you, break things, storm out, call you names, threaten you.. what did she say and do that you’d call inappropriate, intense anger?

anita